“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet.”
Romeo and Juliet (II, ii, 1-2)
Many of us know that names, the most fundamental part of a human being, gives us a sense of identity and belonging. In fact, I think that names should be the starting point to one’s identity as it is given to individuals when they are born. And yet we hardly ever think much into it. Even though names are the most basic part of one’s identity and is widely understood to be so, I felt like exploring concepts of identity and belonging in names even further.
When I think of names and how it gives us a sense of belonging, I think of names and how it links to ideas such as culture, religion, society, ancestry and marital status. I always felt intrigued by the fact that some people have names that are in the Country’s national language, for example, Japanese having a Japanese name. I think that having a name as such gives that individual a sense of belonging to his or her Country, society and heritage. I know for a fact that, my Chinese name gives me a sense of belonging to the Chinese even though I am not from China. I am able to feel a sense of attachment to my Chinese heritage and culture through my name.
What about religion? I feel that religion plays a huge part in names. There is the example of baby christening, where during the baptismal service, the baby is given a Christian name. By doing so, I think it is essentially saying that the child is part of the Christian religion. Even so, what about Christians who did not go through baby christening? Some Christians who are named after people in the bible, like me, might feel a sense of belonging to their faith, as that was where their names were derived from. Lydia was a woman from the New Testament who was converted to Christianity by Paul. Just knowing who I was named after gives me a sense of pride as well as encouragement for me and my faith.
Then there are other ideas such as ancestry and marital status. In some cultures, where ancestry is of importance, a child inherits their parents’ surname or family name, thus indicating the child’s ‘membership’ in the family line. In a marital relationship, the wife will almost always change her family name or surname to her husband’s family name or surname, indicating that she belongs to her husband and her husband’s family.
In terms of identity, names to some of us, is what differentiates us from billions of other individuals on earth. For others, it is a confirmation of our existence. I know that if my name is taken away from me, like prisoners of war, and I am given numbers instead, I would be left with no distinguishable identity. Also, I cannot imagine having a different name from the one I have now because I believe when an individual uses a name, the individual’s personality; traits, values, and qualities would be linked to that name. What about the meaning behind a name? I think, to some, the meaning behind their names is important because it could be something that they base their identity on.
There are also gender names, which give individuals their identity in terms of their gender; and nicknames, where some individuals preferred to be called by their nicknames instead of their given names because it has always been used and their identity is found in it. Some people name their child after a significant event, or people change their names after certain milestone that they go through. These things become the individuals’ new identity. The same idea also applies to mispronunciation or misspelling of names. Some of us would wince when someone mispronounced our names, said it with a pun, or misspelled it because it feels like a distortion of our identity.
Whatever it is, the sense of identity and belonging in something so personal as names are too vast to comprehend. However, writing this made me reflect on my identity in my name, and the meaning behind it (according to thinkbabynames.com, it means either a seller of purple or from Lydia, an area in Greece, although I prefer the former). Why not find out more about yours?